What Are You Really Afraid Of?
What are you really afraid in your life and word? What we need to conquer fear is a new way to look at fear!
We all face fears everyday that prevent actions from being taken and goals being achieved. We might have a dream but cannot overcome our insurmountable fear and so we avoid the challenge.
We may want to develop presentation skills but are afraid of speaking in public, we want to start a business but are afraid to risk our assets, we are in an unhappy marriage but fear being alone. Our fears are as varied as our personalities.
The fact is most people fear a consequence that doesn’t exist.
My father was afraid of bees. He was not allergic so there was no life or death consequence he was just afraid. My mother had no fear of bees and would let one land on her arm and would simply gently dust it away. Very different realities!
I have learned, over-time, that projection makes perception. The world you see is what you gave it, nothing more than that.
Our fears are our personal ‘reality’ and are witness to our state of mind, the outside picture of an inward condition. As a man thinketh, so does he perceive. Therefore, do not seek to change your world, but choose to change your mind about the world. This will change your life!
Perception is a result and not a cause.
I have not met Richard Branson but I do not imagine that he lives with much fear. Everyday whether in business or flying in a balloon, he risks everything and he has done so for years. Reading his biography ‘Losing My Virginity’ I am not given the impression that he is a genius but rather someone who has never avoided a challenge and so has won more often.
You can’t win if you don’t play.
If you understand that fear is not real your life will be very, very different!
Fear is not of the present, but only of the past and future, which do not exist. There is no fear in the present when each instant stands clear and separated from the past, without its shadow reaching out into the future. Each instant is a clean, untarnished moment. Live in the moment, be present and fear cannot affect you! Living in the moment is a powerful change that can increase your ability to get what you want.
Doing what is important right now and focusing your attention completely on that makes every experience powerful – whether giving a speech, a sales presentation or playing with your children. People sense that you care and they react accordingly. Your personal connection to your world gets stronger and more fulfilling.
Understanding fear is a challenge but the moment you understand that it is not real then life really starts to get interesting!